Wednesday 12 January 2011

How Can I Win Back The One I Love

So you desperately want to win back the one you love?  Have you been miserable and lonely without them?  Have you played countless scenarios of their return in your head?  Only one problem , none of these scenarios are likely to happen!

Your ex has made it clear they don't want to hear from you anymore.  So what can you do to win back the one you love?

Well first and foremost it's safe to say you are heading in the right direction, knowing that you need some help and advice is the first step.  So tell me this, up to this point what have you been doing to win them back?  If you're like almost every other person out there with a broken heart you have probably been sending desperate pleading texts, leaving needy miserable  voicemails, begging for a second chance.  But what you don't realise is, that its actually this behaviour that is pushing them further away.  The more desperate and needy you become the more the one you love will pull away.

So what you need to do to win back the one you love is back off, cut all contact for the time being and do your own thing.  Get on with your life and start trying to enjoy yourself.  If you are happier in yourself it will show, you will not need to pester your ex.

You may find it tough in the beginning, but once your ex thinks you have moved on they will start to rethink things.  What's more if they hear from your friends that you're out having a good time, or better still see you moving on they will start to think they have made a big mistake.

You want to make them think that you have lost interest in them altogether.  After all 'people always want what they can't have'.  So if you make the love of your life think they can't have you back then they will want you all the more.

As there has been no contact they will start to miss you, whereas before you were smothering them now they feel you are neglecting them.  You will also become mysterious to them, they don't know what you are thinking or feeling and are getting curious.

When you were so focused on 'How can I win back the one I love'? you were not in control, your ex knew how much you wanted to get back together and so this gave them all the power, by cutting contact you have taken their power away and restored the balance.  You can now move forward on an even keel.
You now understand that your obsessive behaviour was actually doing the opposite of what you wanted it to do.  This is a common mistake that people make when they have just broke-up with someone.  They are so focused on winning back the one they love that they stop thinking logically.

Just keep your distance and avoid contacting them.  Let them make the first move and play hard to get and it won't be long until you win back the one you love.

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Thursday 6 January 2011

What Can I Do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

What Can I Do To Get My Ex Back - Without Being Needy

Break-ups are very difficult for everyone involved, but especicially so if you are the one who has had their heart broke.  You feel rejected and unloved and spend most of your time wondering 'What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back'. 

This is one of the most commonly asked questions by the newly single male.  In fact you probably obsess about this, dreaming up and fantasing about all different scenarios in which you are re-united with your ex girlfriend.  You constantly think about what you would say and do to make things right with her again.

You are not alone, this is exactly how anyone who has had their heart broke feels.  The only difference is how you deal with it from here.  You can obsess about woulda, shoulda, couldas until you make yourself sick, but it will not make things better, in fact this obsessive behaviour will more than likely make things worse.  Constantly stressing and worrying about what you could have done differently is not good for you and it will not get your ex girlfriend back.  It is actually this obssesiv behaviour that could push her further away.

The first thing you need to do when answering the 'What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?' is to give her some time and space to figure out exactly what she wants.  Directly after a break-up emotions are running high, she may need time to calm down before she can see things clearly.  Staying in close contact with her may aggrevate the situation, you may end up arguing even more and neither of you will get a chance to cool down.

The best thing to do is to have a clean break for a while.  Go out and have fun, make new freinds or re-connect with old ones, take up new hobbies and take some time out for yourself.  Doing this will take your mind off your ex girlfriend for a while.

After some time apart you will be able to reassess the situation.  Do you still want to get back with your ex girlfriend?  Or would you rather move on?  If you still want to get back with her now is the time to start taking some action.  Doing it too soon after the break-up can make your ex feel smothered.

After this initial separation you can start to be a bit more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back.  Chances are after a few months she will be starting to miss you too.  Make casual contact, but still keep her at arms length.  If you come on too strong you will only scare her away again, play it very cool and make her think you are not that interested.  Let her think you are getting on fine without her, let her see what a full social life you now have and keep her waiting.  Do not answer calls or text messsages straight away.  She will now start to think that she has made a mistake and show much more interest in you.

Trying to figure out 'what can i do to get my ex firlfriend back' can be really difficult, it is so tempting to try to stay in contact with her as much as possible at the start, after all she has been your main focus for so long.  But the most important thing to remember is to play it cool and make her see that you can manage well on your own.

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Wednesday 5 January 2011

Coping With A Break Up

Coping with a break up can be one of the hardest things you'll ever have to go through.  It feels like your world is ending, you shared so many things with your ex, most of your activities have been centre round them and you don't know what to do with yourself.  As well as this you feel rejected and unloved.  In so many ways a break up is like a death, and you go through a grieving process, you grieve for the past you spent together and for the future you will no longer share.  In some ways it can feel worse than a death, not only do you grieve for the lost love but you also have the rejection to deal with.

You go through so many scenarios in your head, woulda shoulda couldas are all you can think about.  The fear of them moving on is terrifying and consumes your thoughts.  You just want to know how to cope with it and move on.

Coping With A Break Up - Some Advice To Help

Distance - Try to put some distance between you and your ex.  If you are still in contact it is much harder to accept that it is over.  Being in each others company alot can lead to confusion and often someone being led on and sometimes even used.  The best solution is to try and stay away from each other, putting space between you can help you both figure out exactly what you want. 

Try Not To Obsess - Try not to over obsess about your ex, wondering who they are with and what they are doing, you will only drive yourself mad.  Do not keep pestering them with phone calls and text messages, this can make coping with the break up much worse.  Obsessive behaviour will push your ex further away and make relations between you deteriorate.  You want to have as much self-respect as possible so you know that if you do meet them then you can hold your head high.  Also the more you pester your ex the more they will try to avoid you.

Try to Remember the Negatives - When we are coping with a break up we tend to concentrate on all the positive aspects of the relationship, we look back at the relationship with rose coloured glasses, we tend to remember only the good things that happened and focus on what we miss most about the relationship.  If you try to remember the less than perfect aspects of the relationship then it may be less painful.  It may also help you understand how and why the relatinship ended.

Family and Friends - When coping with a break up, having your family and friends around you is very important.  Being able to talk and share your problems is very therapeutic. Getting things out in the open can really help the healing process.  Although to be careful not to go over the same stuff with the same people over and over again as this may put a strain on relationships.

It Is Alright to Cry - Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed to cry.  Crying is a release, it will not cure your broken heart but it will help ease some of the pain.

Keep Busy - The best thing you can do is try to keep busy, the more time you have on your hands the more you will think about your ex.  Try new hobbies, reconnect will friends just go out and have as much fun as you can.

Treat Yourself - There is nothing quite like pampering ourselves, especially when we're feeling down.  Treat yourself to some of the things you love.  Get some beauty treatments so you're looking your best, buy some new clothes, go on a holiday to unwind and get a great tan while your at it.  If you look good on the outside you often feel much better on the inside. 

Healing Time - Healing is a process which takes time, when we have been hurt very deeply it can take time to heal.  Allow yourself this time, everybody heals in different ways and at different paces.  Do not beat yourself up if it is taking longer to heal than you or anyone else thought it would.  Also do not rush into another relationship too soon, you may still be on the rebound and this is not fair on anyone involved.  As the saying goes time really is the best healer, so allow yourself plenty of it.

Coping with a break up is extremely difficult, when you have shared so much of your life with another person it can be hard to let go, above is some advice that can make this process that bit easier to deal with although if you need that bit more help or want to try and win your ex back The Magic Of Making Up is exactly what your looking for.

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